We've been married for 20 years, have three teenage children and very rarely go out on our own.
Instead, we spend our evenings cooking vast amounts of food (I still can't believe how much our sons eat) or acting as an anxious taxi service.
"It depends on how rapidly or slowly things progress." Joan Allen, a relationship expert, finds that baby boomers are far more likely to wait to have sex than younger daters.
"Especially among older people who went through the sexual revolution, with maturity they realize there are emotional consequences for getting involved in a sexual relationship," says Allen, author of Celebrating Single and Getting Love Right: From Stalemate to Soulmate.
Don’t sit around waiting for a boy to make you a priority, communicate his intentions, or even call you on the phone. And this God created and rules his world, including men, women, the biological compulsions that bind them together, and the institution that declares their union and keeps it sacred and safe.
Girls, stop expecting guys to make any formal attempt at winning your affections.
So I started to wonder what it would be like to have a date with my own husband.You bark shopping lists at each other, discuss who's picking up from ballet, argue over the washing up and accuse each other of losing the gas bill.But you very rarely indulge in the kind of rambling, inconsequential, flirtatious nonsense that makes you delight in each other's company: the long conversations that put the world to rights and make you realise why you got together in the first place.Exclusivity and intentionality are ancient rituals, things of the past, and misplaced hopes. It’s not that this new line of thinking is necessarily untrue today, or that it’s not the current and corrupt trend of our culture. One of our most precious pursuits, that of a life-long partner for all of life, is tragically being relegated to tweets, texts, and Facebook pokes, to ambiguous flirtation and fooling around. Therefore, only he can prescribe the purpose, parameters, and means of our marriages.If fullness of life could be found in sexual stimulation, or if it was just a matter of making babies, the “forget formality and just have sex” approach might temporarily satisfy cravings and cause enough conception.