Talking to your date about the other people you are dating while on the date gives a mixed message.Yes, when we were younger, trying to make the other person jealous and trying to make it seem like we were "oh so popular" with a was very in vogue.Sure, if a man is ambiguous in his interactions with a woman, it could very well mean that he just needs to grow a pair.But it also could be all sorts of other reasons—from being clueless to being too smart for his own good and everything in between. So without further ado, here’s some male perspective on what you might call the crisis of the assertive gentleman.“There's a lot of truth to the statement ‘man up,’” Lewis says.Don’t get stuck on the details of how he should be acting or what he should have said, if he really liked you.Real-life example: are you upset that he didn’t text you to invite you to his birthday party, but just sent you the Facebook invitation like everyone else? A guy’s initial intentions matter much less than what actually happens in the moment.All is not lost (although it’d do well to chip in the disclaimer that there are good odds he may not be into you!) – you can decode these ‘seemingly’ ambiguous signs and turn things to your advantage.
It is understood in dating that you are not a shut-in and that you have and get asked on other dates, but it is also understood that it is not proper etiquette to talk about others on a date.Jessica Massa graduated magna cum laude from Harvard with a degree in psychology. And on the flip side, any guy can drive you crazy, maybe without even meaning to, if you’re determined to find drama in every Facebook status update…or if you’re set on convincing yourself that he’s just not that into you.Her work has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Elle, Variety, CNN.com, The Times of London, and Glamour.com, among others. Next time you’re tempted to overanalyze your Prospect You’re Not Sure Is a Prospect, remember that choice—and choose serenity.Here’s what you need to know about reading the mixed signals from a guy, decoding them and dealing with them: 1.Playing the game This one is the most common of the lot.