I have had the experience more than once where a woman has asked to talk on the phone, we do, and then we end up having almost the identical conversation again in person.
It wasn’t the end of the world, but you could tell we both found ourselves a little silly.
Creating your list of telephone topics should be more like cues of what to say so you avoid the dreaded "um" or worse, the long, empty pauses that might convey a negative message that you don't intend at all.
When you are putting together your telephone topic list, remember three key things: Now that you have these things in mind, you are ready to create your own personal list of things to talk about on the phone.
-Vanessa, NYC Don’t worry, Vanessa, I get this one all the time.
And my answer is simple: yes, you should definitely talk to someone on the phone before going out on a date as long as you want that date to totally suck. This is what I mean — here’s a list of topics you can expect to discuss on a phone call with someone you’ve never met: their day, their job, their friends, their hometown, their neighborhood, their likes/dislikes, their horrifying tales of Internet dating past.
Now here’s a list of topics you can expect to discuss on with someone you’ve never met: their day, their job, their friends, their hometown, their neighborhood, their likes/dislikes, their horrifying tales of Internet dating past, and their concern that I am presently falling asleep. There’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting to chat before meet someone in person, but in my experience, that chat will leave you with very little to say once you actually get together.
Obviously any good date will quickly leap beyond this kind of small talk, but when you’re trying to warm up to someone, “tell me what you do for a living” can be a pretty valuable ice breaker.
If you have just gotten to know someone you like and you have the person's phone number, don't hesitate calling and saying hello.
The evening can get a little awkward when the conversation runs dry, so it helps to keep a few topics in mind to keep the date moving along.
The main point of dating someone is to get to know that person better, so you can decide if the two of you have long-term potential.
Are you not sure or nervous about what things to talk about on the phone? Talking on the phone should actually allow you a chance to get to know someone without having to factor in worries about how you look.
If you are someone who gets nervous or easily tongue-tied, talking on the phone may not come as easily to you as it does to others.