Tuesday I went off, -style, on how this is the best country in the world for dating.Today, I thought I'd share a little about what I've learned about dating here in America. A tip of the hat to my Indian-American friend Neel Shah, who pointed out just how badly women want to hear "I love you" in his article for the Awl last month.It’s common for Americans to date dozens of people in a period of 2-4 months, often never seeing the same person more than once or twice if personalities don’t mesh well. The biggest concern is usually what might occur on the next date, not whether the person is marriage material or not.Marriage is not uppermost in most Americans’ minds in the initial stages of dating; they are usually more laid back and prefer to let things evolve naturally and without pressure before making a commitment.You can very well be born in America but have a more “European” mindset and vice versa. Perhaps this ‘score mentality’ is for bragging rights, perhaps it’s for validation so they can feel wanted and desired, or perhaps it’s a pure ego play.American men will rush to get you in bed as quick as possible, while European men don’t appear to have the same rush (or desperation). European men don’t ‘date’ – in the formal way that Americans are used to.My friends were so surprised that at 24 years old I had never had a real Valentine’s Day, but I am pretty sure I am not alone (please LEAVE COMMENTS below if this year was also your first V-Day! Last Valentine’s Day, my friend told me not to be sad that I didn’t have anyone to celebrate with – when the time is right, it will exceed all your expectations. So let’s go back to talking about the big V-Day date, and chatting about some points that I think are interesting to share.
I’m not to judge that one is better than the other, and mind you, my observations are based on my own experiences as well as a group of women I’ve interviewed in the last two years. Well, the first Valentine’s Day I actually got to celebrate, anyway. for two years now, I have been experienced many firsts, but none of them compare to the first I experienced last week – my first Valentine’s Day.For hundreds of years, the goal of young Russian women has been to find a husband – and that has not changed to this day.For this reason, casual dating is a lot less common in Russia.